Clear implicit mental standards

We have our goals, and we want to realize our goals, but from the way along our lives, we’ve built up many implicit mental standards which ask us what we can do and what we can not do, mainly those mental standards are to maintain our conceptual self, or our social self. Those implicit mental standards in most cases act as chains and cuffs which greatly inhibit us from realizing our goals. To realize goals, we need to know Tao, but most of the time our attention is consciously or unconsciously invested in our selves, therefore we can not see Tao, because our attention is absorbed by focusing on our selves, on the other hand, we need to utilize Tao to realize our goals, but our mental standards often hinder us from utilizing Tao. So we need to clear the mental standards we’ve built up. We can use two weapons to clear the mental standards, one is “accept”, one is “give up”. We feel good by accepting certain things, and we feel good by giving up certain things, then we will know Tao and we will be able to utilize Tao, and consequently we will achieve our goals.